Do you withhold love in order to protect yourself?

Do you withhold love in order to protect yourself? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Was withholding taught to you as a young one to protect yourself from being hurt?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Are you overly identified with giving and receiving?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do you doubt your ability to receive?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do you experience struggle with receiving the love you want in your relationship?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do you experience a pattern of come close but ✋🏼just close enough?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do you experience yourself as not worthy of receiving?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do you tell yourself I’m a great giver just not a good receiver?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My ❓ for you is.. Where are you withholding love?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Can you pinpoint where you withhold love? Where you create a barrier, where you create the imbalance that shows up as imbalanced giving and receiving.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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God touches our traumas for healing through our triggers🪞 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Let’s peel back the layers of this onion⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Let’s get to the core of your giving and receiving story in your relationship.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏻Acknowledging + Owning ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏻Taking 100% Responsibility where I was not giving and where I was over giving (which builds resentment) to compensate for the places I wasn’t giving helped me create the balance inside myself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏻 Acknowledging that I am 100% Creator of my reality helped me shed the victim story of I’m not capable of equal balanced relationship. (This was a core pattern that my parents played out)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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👉🏻Taking baby steps to balance where it was out of balance in my love life. This began to heal the out of balance perspective I had adopted and learned to hold in my consciousness as a core way of relating. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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💎 Releasing my need to withhold love from myself in any way opened the door to all I want in love and life. ⠀

Why Do People Withhold Love?

Withholding love is often something learned as a young one, a way to protect yourself before you could protect yourself any other way. It can look like over-giving, difficulty receiving, or staying guarded even in safe relationships. Healing it means going back to where withholding first became a survival strategy.

How Does Withholding Love Show Up as Trust Issues?

💎 Withholding does not just show up alone. It shows up in relationship too, as trust issues — the checking, the guarding, the waiting for the good thing to end.

I go deeper into where that pattern comes from and how to repattern it here: What Are Relationship Trust Issues, Really?

Are you ready to explore where you withhold and what its connected to in order to complete it, dissolve it and heal it?

Withholding love to stay safe is a protective pattern, and it has an age. It is one of the clearest forms of self-betrayal, and it is met through age stage healing rather than through trying harder to open.

What Else Do People Ask About Withholding Love?

What are signs you might be withholding love?

Doubting your ability to receive, a pattern of letting people come close but only just close enough, feeling unworthy of receiving, or telling yourself you are a great giver but not a good receiver.

How do you begin to heal a pattern of withholding love?

Acknowledge and own where you were not giving and where you were over giving, take full responsibility as the creator of your reality, and take baby steps to bring your love life back into balance.

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If you are ready to begin the deeper work now, you can also book a Spiritual Psychology session with me, and we will go straight into where the withholding began.